Before we begin the therapeutic process, like any other new adventure, we may have feelings of excitement and anxiety. It is exciting to think that there may really be solutions to the life experiences that have hurt and plagued us. We may feel excited and motivated to try new knowledge and tools we learn, but we may also feel anxious or scared. We may feel as though this is our last resort and fear that this, too, will not work. We may believe that while it has worked for many others, perhaps we are so damaged that it will not work for us. We may simply not know what to expect, and not knowing can be really scary. Often times change may have felt like it was for the worst and therefore, anything different can feel threatening. The key to getting started in any exciting but perhaps frightening new adventure is willingness.
Therapy is a process of learning to know ourselves. As a process, it is never completed, and change continues to occur. As certain problems are solved, we are led to deeper levels of consciousness. At first this may seem discouraging, however it may actually be a blessing. Even after we have overcome a crisis, which is what often leads us to seek therapy in the first place, there is always the potential for more growth. Again, the key is willingness to stick with it and embrace the continued opportunity for growth and awareness.
As we begin this journey, we often want to know a specific tool to apply to each specific problem; it can be very frustrating to feel as though you are groping around in the dark. It is important to remember that the tool that works best for one person may not work for us. While there is a common understanding of the effectiveness of tools and techniques that can be learned from therapy, we are all individual people who must find our own unique blend of solutions. The only way to learn what works for us is to be willing to try it in our own lives and to remember the goal is to achieve progress, not perfection.