I heard a fable today of a farmer who found a magic flute. He decided to use this flute to charm his hens into laying more eggs and so he played it to them all day long. By the end of the day, the hens had laid no more eggs than usual. When he was asked if he’d had any success, he replied, “I sure did. It wasn’t much of a day for egg-laying, but it was a great day for music.”
This story highlights, so whimsically, the importance of perspective. In any given situation we actually have a choice of how we look at it and the meaning that we attach to it. Our thoughts can often feel as though they happen automatically and therefore that we have no control over them…to a certain point, this is true. We may have an automatic thought that is one of negative, fearful, hurtful, shameful, etc., but it doesn’t have to end there. I often say to my clients that it’s not about NOT having certain thoughts or feelings, but what you do with them when they come up that matters. So, when you are presented with a situation and you automatically go to viewing it as negative, or as a failure, challenge yourself to acknowledge that there could be the possibility of a different perspective, even if you don’t believe it at first. The more practice you get at taking this challenge the more you will begin to believe it, I promise. If you are consciously reminding yourself throughout the day to find the positives in your experiences you’ll find that it does start to become a genuine part of you and you will carry yourself as someone with love and positivity in their hearts.