I was sitting at lunch last week with a therapist who had reached out to connect with me as he is getting ready to move into his post-doctorate life, and he asked me, “So, Jenn, how did you do it, how did you build a successful private practice?” Good question, right? I thought so, and I took a minute to reflect on what he had asked me. I gave him the most honest, heartfelt response, “I always knew I would.”
The next day I was watching a video of two women that I deeply admire and look to for guidance with strength, confidence, and faith, Danielle LaPorte and Marie Forleo. They were talking about visualization for manifesting your dreams, and Danielle said, “You have to believe it to see it.” When I heard her say this, I thought back to my lunch the day before and all of the light bulbs started going off. Wow, what an empowering realization: I am able to humbly say that, yes, on some level despite all of the noise of my fears, I always believed in my greatness.
It’s amazing though, how easy it is deny our own greatness. I think women are especially prone to denying their strengths and will often minimize their accomplishments. Why are we so afraid to stand-up and declare how awesome we are, to let ourselves truly shine? Why do we listen to these irrational thoughts that consume us with fears of what other people will think?
Women will turn their back on their strengths because those fearful thoughts convince us to doubt ourselves, or find “evidence” that overshadows our belief in ourselves. Instead of believing how fully capable we are, we turn to our perceived flaws, the areas where we are not good enough, or why it it’s just too hard.
The good news is, we all have greatness in us! What is stopping you from seeing your own greatness? What fearful, or negative thoughts get in the way of manifesting all of your goals and dreams, or even setting goals for that matter?
Marianne Williamson writes in her book A Return to Love:
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us.
We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do.
We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
The fact is if you really want to live a successful, fulfilling, and meaningful life, you have to believe that it is possible. “You have to believe it to see it.” You have to believe in your worth and your value.
And, P.S. – don’t be afraid to flaunt it! By sharing your belief in yourself you are reinforcing your own success and the belief that the world is full of abundance, we just have to make the choice to believe it.