“Be thankful for what you have; you’ll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you will never, ever have enough.” - Oprah Winfrey
I talk with my clients a lot about finding gratitude…A LOT. For me, gratitude is a critical part of the foundation of creating a peaceful, joyful life.
It’s so easy to get caught up in the mindset of deprivation, where we never feel like we have enough, and until we are able to truly appreciate and feel satisfied with what we already have, we will never be satisfied with what we get.
This is true for all aspects of our lives: our job, relationships, salary, weight, food, the list can go on and on. Until we are able to see the abundance already present in our lives we will continue to grasp for the next “solution;” whether that be the bigger house, the next 5 lbs to lose, or the perfect partner, and eventually that won’t feel good enough either.
How do you break this cycle?
By finding gratitude for what you already have.
How do you find gratitude for what you already have?
I’m a really big believer in making a gratitude list everyday. This is something I practice in my daily life and often suggest others give it a try. All it entails is making a list, my number is 12, usually I tell people to try 10, of things that you are grateful for your my life.
The most common skepticism I encounter is the idea that the things on the list aren’t “good enough.” “So what that I have a job, my job sucks.” This type of thinking is why it is SO important to practicing writing your gratitude list.
Just because you write a gratitude list doesn’t mean that magically, overnight your life is transformed and you’ve started drinking the Kool-Aid out of the half-full glass. But you are beginning to retrain your mind’s focus and creating different pathways in your brain.
This isn’t a black-and-white process. Life is not all good or all bad. This is about holding space for both. Yes, things may be rocky in your marriage AND you’re blessed with beautiful children, or have a roof over your head, or your physical health, or fill-in-the-blank of what you DO have in your life.
As you continue to dedicate time everyday to intentionally focus on the things you do have in your life, eventually this way of thinking, of seeing yourself and the world around you, will become more familiar and even automatic. You may even find that one day it has become your dominant perception!
Give it a try. What do you have to lose, except for your deprivation mindset, perhaps?
With much appreciation and gratitude,
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